Are you a bequeather or heir?
In inheritance matters, factual matters are closely linked to relationship issues. Imagine if every family member had written down their own family history – especially the feelings associated with it – in an imaginary book. At the latest, when the subject of "inheritance" becomes real – consciously or unconsciously – those affected will bring out this "book of life" again. Naturally, they then want someone to listen to the chapters that are most important to them. And isn't it also your wish that all goes well and fairly so that everyone involved can get along with each other or heal their relationships?